on November 19, 2019
It’s easy to want more. In many ways, we are hardwired from an early age to constantly strive for something else—something better. Sometimes that’s fine (the desire for more can be motivating), but oftentimes it makes us unhappy or discontent. In fact, a recent study out of the University of California found that focusing on being grateful can increase happiness levels by about 25 percent.
And gratitude doesn’t just benefit adults. An article published through UC Berkley discusses how gratitude can help students to be happier, have a better attitude toward school, and become more resilient.
Not to mention, being grateful for what you have is an excellent life lesson to instill in children. It helps curb greediness, envy, and the desire to always have the “latest and greatest” toy/video game/clothing.
Gratitude is a learned skill, and one that can be cultivated at a young age. Here are 7 ways to begin teaching your child to count their blessings:
1. Be An Example
We all know kids are sponges. If you model an attitude of gratitude, they will pick up on it. Practice saying “please” and “thank you,” looking on the bright side, and expressing your gratitude for the little things in life—from food on the table to a bright, sunny day. Your example of gratitude DOES make a difference.
2. Practice Sharing Gratitude
Whether at the dinner table or before bed at night, encourage your child to express what they are grateful for. Get them in the habit of thinking about gratitude on a daily basis. Some kids may even want to journal about the things for which they are thankful.
3. Turn Gratitude Into a Game
Design thank you postcards with your children (they could be as simple as an index card with the words “Thank You!” written on them with colorful markers, or much more complex and “artsy”). Have your child keep a stash and hand them out whenever they feel grateful toward someone.
4. Turn Gratitude Into a Game, Part II
Another gratitude game you could play involves keeping a gratitude money jar. Whenever your child expresses their gratitude, a coin goes into the jar. When the jar is full, donate the money to your favorite charity.
5. Volunteer
Your child may not realize how lucky they have it. Help out those in need and expand your child’s worldview.
6. Look On The Bright Side
When something goes wrong, encourage your child to find the positive side of the situation. For example, if another child was cast as the lead in a theater production, try saying: “I know you’re feeling jealous of Aiden for getting the lead role, but let’s think of three reasons why that isn’t so bad.”
7. Encourage a Healthy Work Ethic
One of the best life lessons you can give your child is the ability to put in work and reap a reward. Instead of doling out dollars, have them earn them. Whether you set your child up with weekly chores, enlist their help with a special project, or assist them in starting a lawn mowing business, you’re demonstrating that in the “real world” you have to put in time and energy to get what you want. It’s easier to be grateful for what you have when you realize how much effort it took to get it.
A gratitude mindset starts at an early age. By encouraging your kids to count their blessings, you’re helping them form a positive habit that can last a lifetime.